Just Because You're Scared, Doesn't Mean You Do NOTHING - MAC123

I heard a quote on a recent episode of the Hidden Brain podcast that really hit me.  It was so powerful that I had to rewind the podcast just to hear it again. It was simple, almost obvious once you heard it; “Just because you’re scared doesn’t mean you do nothing.” The line came from a story the guest was telling about his mother. The story had nothing to do with careers, promotions, or performance reviews…but the moment I heard it, I knew it applied perfectly to work.

Fear shows up any time you’re trying to grow. Any time you’re pushing beyond what’s familiar. Any time you’re aiming for more responsibility, more visibility, or more impact. And yet, in the workplace, we treat fear like a personal defect; something to hide, suppress, or wait out. As if confident people simply don’t feel it.

So this episode is about fear; not as a flaw, and not as something to eliminate. It’s about fear as a constant companion if you’re doing anything that actually moves your career forward. And I want to be clear upfront; this is for everyone. If you’re early in your career and scared to speak up. If you’re mid‑career and worried you’re becoming replaceable. If you’re senior and afraid of making the wrong call in front of your team. Fear doesn’t disappear with titles. It just changes shape.

Let’s talk about what fear actually does to careers…and what happens when you stop letting it freeze you in place.

Early in your career, fear is loud. Sometimes almost debilitating. It shows up as self‑doubt and imposter syndrome; that constant internal narration asking questions like, “Am I actually qualified to be here?” “Am I about to ask a dumb question?” “If I mess this up, will people remember it forever?” I’ve talked about this before in Episode 83, Faking It, because this phase is nearly universal…even if no one around you admits it.

This kind of fear has a very specific effect on behavior. People stay small. They stay quiet. They wait to be invited instead of volunteering. They do exactly what’s asked…and nothing more. There’s an unspoken assumption running in the background; once I feel confident, then I’ll raise my hand, speak up, or go after something bigger.

But confidence doesn’t come first. Action does. Confidence is built after you do the uncomfortable thing, not before it. I go deeper on this dynamic in Episode 85, Confidence Builds Confidence, because it’s one of the most misunderstood ideas in career growth. Waiting to feel ready is one of the most reliable ways to stall out early.

Most people don’t realize this, but the people you admire at work…the ones who seem comfortable speaking up, offering opinions, or volunteering for stretch projects…they were scared too. The difference wasn’t a lack of fear. The difference was that they didn’t let fear decide their behavior. Fear tells you to stay invisible. Careers are built by people who feel fear…and choose visibility anyway.

If you’ve managed to quiet the fear of self‑doubt, you’ve probably advanced into the middle stages of your career. This is where fear gets more subtle…and far more dangerous. You’ve built credibility. You know your job. You’re good at it. And that’s exactly when fear shifts from “Should I even be here?” to “What if I fail?” or “What if I lose what I’ve already built?” This is the kind of fear that doesn’t feel dramatic. It feels reasonable. And it’s the kind that can keep people stuck for years.

At this stage, fear shows up in restraint. You don’t apply for the role because you might not get it. You don’t challenge a decision because you don’t want to be labeled difficult. You don’t ask for clarity on promotion criteria because what if the answer is uncomfortable? So instead, you optimize for safety. You become dependable. Reliable. Low‑risk.

Here’s the hard truth; organizations don’t promote people because they are safe. They promote people because they trust them with uncertainty. Mid‑career fear quietly convinces people to protect their current role instead of preparing for the next one…and the longer that pattern holds, the harder it becomes to break.

If you manage a team or sit in a senior role, fear doesn’t disappear. It just gets dressed up as responsibility. You’re scared of making the wrong call. Scared of losing credibility. Scared of admitting you don’t have all the answers. Scared of pushing someone too hard…or not hard enough. So leaders hesitate. They delay feedback. They avoid hard conversations. They stick with familiar strategies long after those strategies have stopped working.

And here’s the irony; the fear of doing harm often creates more harm than action ever would. Teams feel the hesitation. Problems linger. Decisions get deferred instead of made. Strong leaders aren’t fearless. They’re decisive despite fear.

This is where that quote comes back into play; “Just because you’re scared doesn’t mean you do nothing.” That sentence reframes everything. It doesn’t say fear is irrational. It doesn’t say fear is a weakness. It simply says fear does not get veto power over your actions. Fear can ride in the car…it just doesn’t get to drive.

Naming something reduces its power and now that we’ve named your fear, let’s talk about how it actually blocks career growth. Not loudly. Not dramatically. Quietly. Fear keeps you waiting for permission. It keeps you over‑preparing instead of acting. It keeps you saying yes to work that keeps you busy…but not visible. It keeps you quiet in meetings and loud in your own head afterward.

And the most dangerous thing fear does is this; it convinces you that inaction is neutral. That doing nothing somehow keeps the scoreboard unchanged.

It doesn’t. Doing nothing is a decision. And over time, it’s a very loud one. When leaders look around the room and think about who’s ready for more, they don’t just look at output. They look at how you handle the unknown; whether you freeze when things are unclear, or whether you move forward in spite of the uncertainty. Fear tells you to wait for clarity. Careers are built by people who move before clarity exists.

Let’s make this practical, because motivation without application doesn’t change anything. Courage at work is rarely dramatic. It’s not quitting your job on the spot or delivering a fiery speech. It’s usually small, uncomfortable actions taken consistently. It’s asking a question even though your voice shakes a little. It’s offering an opinion without a disclaimer. It’s asking for feedback you might not like. It’s saying “I’d like to be considered for that” instead of hoping someone notices. Courage looks boring from the outside. From the inside, it feels terrifying.

One of the biggest mistakes people make is assuming courageous action should feel good. It usually doesn’t. If it feels comfortable, it’s probably familiar. And familiar rarely moves your career forward. The goal isn’t to eliminate fear. The goal is to shorten the time between feeling fear and taking action anyway. That gap…that pause where you debate yourself…that’s where careers stall or accelerate.

Let me offer a simple reframe that helps. Instead of asking “what if this goes wrong,” ask “what happens if I keep doing exactly what I’m doing now?”. That question is sobering. There's that classic adage that "the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results." If you don’t speak up, you remain invisible. If you don’t ask, the answer stays no. If you don’t stretch, you don’t grow. If you don't change, neither will the results. Fear often exaggerates the downside of action and completely ignores the downside of inaction.

Managers, this part is especially for you. Your team is watching how you respond to fear; not what you say about it, but what you do when things are uncertain. If you avoid risk, they will too. If you punish mistakes, they’ll stop trying. If you never admit uncertainty, they’ll hide theirs. Creating a culture where people act despite fear doesn’t mean chaos. It means psychological safety paired with accountability. Your job isn’t to remove fear from the workplace. It’s to model forward motion in its presence.

Fear can be a signal. Sometimes it’s telling you to slow down. To think. To prepare. This isn’t about reckless action. It’s about refusing to let fear be the final decision‑maker. Thoughtful action beats frozen perfection every single time. Career growth isn’t about eliminating fear. It’s about deciding that fear doesn’t get to decide your future. Just because you’re scared doesn’t mean you do nothing.

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